Many things have been cancelled this year. Disneyland. Hockey. Pride parades. Haircuts. The Calgary Stampede. Graduations, funerals, birthdays… and, weddings.
Amid all the disappointments, grief and fear brought on by the coronavirus pandemic, it’s comforting to know that at least love has not been cancelled. Despite all the spring and summer wedding cancellations, people are finding ways to follow their bliss. This could mean postponing to the same date next year, getting married via Zoom, eloping, or using wedding funds for a down payment or an amazing honeymoon instead.
“There are tons of stories of people who have had to cancel their weddings, have had to make the choice whether they’re going to postpone the wedding or cancel it altogether,” Danielle Andrews, president of the Wedding Planners Institute of Canada, said in an interview with Global News.
For those struggling with their wedding plans, we feel you. Cancelling is hard. There are fears of financial consequences, of suppliers not returning deposits, of family and friends not getting refunded for flights. And of course, emotional consequences – sadness over the lack of celebration, missing loved ones and even feeling thwarted or cursed. If you’re in this boat, take a beat to acknowledge your resilience.
As all know from our high school Shakespeare, the course of true love never did run smooth. This unprecedented year of limbo creates as good a time as any to question everything. Do you need a wedding or do you want a wedding? Does it have to be now? Must it be the way your teenage self (or your mother) imagined it, or can it reflect your adult style? Can you start living your married life now, with confidence that the ceremony and celebration will happen in its own time?
Weddings are huge financial undertakings, akin to treating everyone you know and their plus-ones to a night out at the most expensive restaurant in town. A wedding can be a social signifier, a rite of passage, and the most expensive party you’ll ever throw.
On the other hand, a wedding can be an intimate promise, shared with your beloved and a handful of your favourite people. Many hotels are now providing their grandest ballrooms to the smallest of wedding parties. For some couples, the covid-related social restrictions provide a convenient excuse for avoiding the cost and stress of a big wedding they were half-dreading anyway.
Most importantly, remember that a wedding is a short-term expense, while a marriage is a long-term investment. Consider skipping the meeting with a wedding planner this year and take a virtual meeting with a financial planner instead. By plotting out your shared goals and strategies, you’ll get a headstart on achieving the life you both truly want, happily ever after style.